Sorry you’re mired in this quagmire. From where we sit, it appears to be such as your wedding doesn’t stay the possibility. No matter if your wife chooses that she’ll go directly, break the affair off, etc., she still prioritizes partying, having a good time, being impulsive over, let’s simply say, being truly a responsible adult and parent.
Several things i do want to give out.
1) it isn’t your fault, it is not about any failings of yours. She decided to cheat, she decided to celebration, she made a decision to put her kids and spouse in this example.